Several years ago I committed the equivalent of social, emotional, political, cultural suicide. And yes it is as awful and colorful as it sounds, IMO. I have become that most pessimistic of people in the last ten years or so than anyone I know. I also know that it is counterproductive to looking forward , planning and being positive. I was taught, through all the years of training, at various corporations, pep rally's, seminars, and motivational speakers, (that charged premiums to employers to take their employees to those lofty levels of ultimate satisfaction in life) that to get ahead one must have the right thinking and positive attitude to succeed in life.
All well and good, except that the one glaring flaw, the one chink in the armor, is that in order for someone to win, there must be a loser. Yeah that's right a loser. And often times more than one if not many losers to that one winner. And the equation is totally unbalanced. There are way more losers than winners and you don't have to snopes it to figure it out either. For every guy and gal that gets the sale, there are several that don't. For every race won there are many losers behind the winner.
There is no way around it, and no matter how positive, or how hard one works at it, there will inevitably be more losses than wins throughout the lifespan.
Ok, all that to say this... Social suicide, back on topic. It wasn't overnight that it happened but a gradual building up of the losses that did it. Loss of innocence, loss of freedom, loss of income, loss of youth, loss of energy, loss of drive, loss of beauty, loss of health, loss of position, loss of status, loss of pride, loss of accomplishment, loss after loss after loss with nary a small win in between it all.
So it is through those eyes if experience that I realized how little of a difference my efforts towards a "thing" actually accomplish anything at all. I believe that in this life it is more about timing, placement, and who you know that make all the differences we see throughout the world. I classify this as the haves and have nots.
Today we have so many people taking sides on so many topics culturally that you inevitably fall into the losing category no matter which way you dare to choose, believe or think. I could careless about anyone's personal conviction on a matter anymore. Whatever it is you will be harming someone else to some degree or another. This is why I now live a life of sarcastic memes. I don't even agree with all of them that are posted, I just find merit with all of them through the skepticism of the losing eye discussed above. Let's take this vaccination meme...
I may or may not agree with vaccinations. Or is it that I partially agree because I believe some are helpful, and I disagree because I feel that many are not and in fact a push by government and big business more than a health issue. Both those statement are absolute in truth too. So where do you stand? Both side can confuse you with spun facts and they are both right and wrong. Once again , a lose lose situation to only one winner in this scenario. The winner is the one holding the cards and is the decision maker. Seems unfair? A forced loss to many no matter what. Many of my peers live on one side or the other and I can politely weed through all the dogmas to keep the friendship afloat. But really what I am talking about is not letting my personal opinions get in the way of a relationship. I still lose if two of the wrong friends go toe to toe. Damn social media for opening up that box!So can you see what I mean by social suicide? I have taken that death pill and bit it in half. I have taken that additional hit in the face and lost the battle by not taking a side. It is how it goes with many many cultural and social topics right now. Media has done a bang up job of getting people up in arms about everything. Not good for those prone to just snapping and going postal...
So far now we will just meme it and be good.
